It’s not advisable to get into a relationship right after a breakup because it will most likely not end up working how we want. A break up often takes a bit of our essence. The connection definitely involved some sort of exchange whether energetic or material and the breakage of that connection could leave you with a feeling of emptiness. It’s more of an energetic cut-off that needs to be refilled from within yourself through self-love.

An example of a very intense break up that takes almost the whole and not only a piece of the individual is addiction. Having dependence on substance or certain maladaptive behaviour gives it the power over you. The relationship may begin fun and draw an illusion of potential harmony,  in the long run however when the veils come down, we see the true nature of the relationship. We may or may not realise that we are the ones losing a part of us with each interaction. Just like all toxic relationships there is always one who gets over attached and is always too emotionally invested in comparison to the other. The one suffering always makes excuses and looks for blame anywhere else other than the source. Ending the relationship will take so much sacrifice in that one has to jump out of their comfort zone.

It will cause so many uncomfortable feelings that will be hard to bear. However after the grieving and mourning process, we will recover the part of us that we lost. It needs time and caution as we are rebuilding a part of us we lost or forgot. We are also learning how to live without that connection. With this progressive earth, there are many creative treatment processes that can make the recovery less conflicting and disruptive. Change will be hard but living a life where your happiness is dependent on someone or something, is harder. Help is available